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Tantrums Happen: Connecting during Emotional Moments

Temper tantrums are a normal and very common part of growing up. Ignore those eye-rolling critics. Your child’s extreme display of kicking, screaming, and crying is not a bad rap on your parenting skills. Viewed another way, tantrums can offer a great “parenting moment” to help your child learn to deal with strong emotions. So, stay calm and stay close. Your child needs you to be there.


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